I had knee surgery last June and my rehab has been slower than expected. I have an entry for the New York Marathon in November and have been thinking about starting my training. Last week the UPS man delivered a package of motivation – he delivered my New York Marathon “In Training” shirt. Time to train!
I found myself back on the treadmill this week. I started running at an easy pace for a few minutes then bumped the pace upa bit. After a few minutes I realized “this is uncomfortable.” Then I thought, “why am I doing this?” Followed quickly by “you could just stop you know. You’re uncomfortable. You’re breathing hard. You could just stop.”
Wow! Where did that come from? I had not had those thoughts in a L-O-N-G time. Honestly, those thoughts really surprised me because I had been looking forward to running. Rather than stopping, I took a mental step back and started analyzing the situation. I thought “yes, I’m uncomfortable, but it doesn’t really hurt. It feels different. I know I’ve worked harder than this before. And, since I’m just starting back it is not unreasonable for me to feel this way.” And, I kept going and finished the workout.
When we are in a new situation or getting back into something we have not done recently, we feel uncomfortable. When we feel uncomfortable it is really easy to just stop and avoid the situation. However, it is when we get into new situations - it is when we feel uncomfortable – that we have the greatest opportunity to grow. Often, the discomfort is really fear. Fear of change, fear of the unknown, fear of failure, fear of (fill in the blank). You have probably heard that FEAR is False Evidence Appearing Real. When we lok at why we are fearful, we find there is no real reason for the feeling of fear.
When you feel uncomfortable or feel fear, take a step back and talk yourself through what is going on. Why are you feeling this way? Is it valid? Then, decide how you are going to move forward. Do you really need to stop? Or, is that just fear talking? Are you afraid of trying something new because you might fail? John Wooden said “failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.” Don’t be afraid to fail. You can learn a lot when you fail.
Finishing a marathon (New York will be my fourth) is, in my opinion, 90% mental. Finishing, heck even starting, many things is 90% mental. So the next time your head starts telling you that you cannot do something. Stop and ask it why. Then, talk it through and think about why you CAN do it. As Mohandas K. Gandhi said, “A man is but the product of his thoughts. What he thinks, he becomes.” I think I’ll be a marathoner again come November.

